Proverbs 5:7-8,15,18-20. So now, my sons, listen to me, and don’t turn away from the words of my mouth. Keep your way far from her (a promiscuous woman). Don’t go near the door if her house…drink water from your own cistern, water flowing from your own well…let your fountain be blessed, and take pleasure in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful fawn, let her breasts always satisfy you; be lost in her love forever. Why, my son, would you be infatuated with a forbidden woman?
Be sure you stay far, far away from sexual sin, anything that draws you away from your spouse. Don’t even go near it! God teaches us to stay far away and not go near her door. Don’t tempt your fate with sexual sin, you will lose.
If you have problems looking at things online that you shouldn’t be looking at, then put a web filter on and have it email your spouse (or another accountability partner) every site you visit. Don’t get in one on one situations with those of the opposite gender, anything can happen. Avoid watching any movies or shows and/or reading any books or magazines that cause you lustful feelings. (Guys…you’re not getting playboy for the articles and you’re not getting the swimsuit edition because you’re interested in the latest in swimwear design) (gals…you’re not reading 50 shades of grey for the great plot and you’re not watching magic mike for the great acting)
Instead, enjoy your spouse to the fullest! God has provided you the perfect mate. Craig Groeshel says it well in his book “weird,” “if the grass looks greener somewhere else, it’s time to water your own lawn.” If you dont work on your marriage, it will fall apart. Get out your hose, plant some grass seed, pull the weeds, whatever you need to do. The hard work pays off with a wonderfully satisfying marriage. This will be a good example for future generations of your family and can fight the pattern of divorce in our country. The battle starts in YOUR marriage…no pressure 🙂
For more help with sexual sin go to http://www.experiencefriendship.com and click on messages and media. Scroll down to the guardrails series and listen to run, forest, run!
For more help in your marriage you can check out our marriage ministry at http://forbetterorworse.org/ And you can stick around Friendship Church for our “woven” series coming up. Also, read the five love languages by Gary chapman and real marriage by Marc Driscoll.