When your life is going well, it seems that friends are there in abundance. Sometimes, when things take a rough turn for you, it seems that friends manage to just disappear. Everyone is willing to come watch the football game with you, but wouldn’t it be nice to have friends available and willing to help you when you need marriage help, financial guidance, decision-making advice, etc? Also, wouldn’t it be nice if these friends actually had some good advice for you, because their marriage, financial situation, and decision-making are in all solid standing. It just so happens that this is exactly what God has in mind for us.
Proverbs 11:14 says: Without guidance, people fall, but with many councilors there is deliverance.
And Proverbs 12: A fools way is right in his own eyes, but whoever listens to council is wise.
We are not meant to carry life’s burdens on our own, God wants us to have guidance and support from our friends. He even lets us know that we are foolish if we try to do things on our own. That’s a blow to my ego, because I’ve always been one to try to do things on my own, not wanting to place a burden on others. This is not God’s plan for me, and I have been foolish for trying to do things on my own. If we are to rely on others, we don’t want just anyone providing us guidance…we need to choose your friends wisely.
Proverbs 13:20 says: The one who walks with the wise will become wise, but a companion of fools will suffer harm.
and Proverbs 14:7 says: Stay away from a foolish man; you will gain no knowledge from his speech.
God wants our friends to actually be able to help us, not drag us down further than we’ve gotten ourselves. If you hang out with people going in the direction you want to go, you will move in that direction with them. They will help you make wiser decisions, be accountability partners with you, and keep you from harms way. If you hang out with those that are moving away from where you want to go, you will never become the person God intended you to be. I have found that a friend will either have a positive or negative influence on you…there is no neutral influence. How are each of your friends influencing you?
Some of us need to drop some friends that are moving in the opposite direction of where you are called to be. Some of us need to have some serious conversations with our friends and see if they are on the same page as us. Some of us just need to find new friends that have their heads on their shoulders, will provide more help than just cheering at a football game, and won’t go running when the times get tough.